Lame, antisocial or offensive? Which one is better?

I know that I'm missing a socializing chip, and that that has cost me dearly in potential friends and possibly jobs, stuff like that.  Mostly because I was lame when maybe it would have been better for me to antisocial and offensive, or I was antisocial and offensive when it would have been better to be lame.  Of course it's always better to be charming and sparkly and witty, but I've never heard of Aspies who can be all of those things. This is confusing, and I'm getting a bit hungry, so I'll have to think about this some more.